working the program

topic posted Mon, May 23, 2005 - 10:28 AM by  gypsydaze
out here in socal we have dual diagnosis recovery groups that use the 12 step model. there aren't many mtgs. available. i have tried to get one started in our little sleepy mountain town, but doing the feasibility assessment showed that in our area AA seems to meet the needs of many of the dually's, excluding the newcomer. thus the nearby jitterjoint, where i got stable and has a great DD group needs the newbie support is important. but, what is sad, and my question is that is difficult lies in that difficult 4th step. for me it was ez. i've been in therapy for so long, steps 4 and 5 are cakewalks. but for folks who are facing mental illnesses for the first time and maybe traumatized by some pretty crazy shit that have brought them into the mental health arena w/ substance abuse issues making a searching fearless "moral" inventory scares a dually right back to the depths of insanity. thus in dual recovery it is reworded to exclude the word moral. in a 12x12 AA last night, i happened to disagree w/ much of how the 4th step was presented preferring the BB presentation. we as dually's spend so much time beating ourselves up over our no fault illnesses and substance abuse masks we dont need to rewrite our masterpiece which many of us have written in manic moments and psychotic states anyway. we need the help of sponsors who understand our condition and therapists who understand the model to help walk us through e process. and we need to keep the newbie engaged so they dont slip thru the cracks. the books are available, as are the workbooks. and really , even if the mtgs, arent you can sit in the AA and NA and do your own thing w/ the dual books as long as you have the right sponsor. any thoughts out there???
  • Re: working the program

    Thu, May 26, 2005 - 10:38 AM
    Pam, you sure bring up very valid points. It's an extremely delicate situation, not only for newcomers, but their sponsors as well. Even when one is fortunate enough to find a DDx sponsor, or at least one knowledgeable enough (a rarity), trust is always a more profound issue than for most non-DDx.

    Then there's the matter of the Dx(s) themselves. Ever try working with a detoxing, unmedded paranoid schizo? Oy vay! ;oD Of course recovery happens at varying rates depending mostly upon the newcomer. Sometimes it's the 2-3 paces forward and 1 back shuffle. This can go on for a while until the newcomer is reasonably stable and/or their level of trust is comfortable enough for them to feel secure. Regardless, an aware sponsor/group will intuitively know when to lovingly nudge and when to use the kid gloves.

    I haven't had much time to check out this site yet to see just how DRA really operates in comparison with traditional oldies like AA & NA. Should be worthy of discussion in the near future...

    www.dualrecovery.org/

    For now, though... I've got meds to take, an empty stomach, and a house to clean. Thanks for posting!

    {{{hugs}}},

    Chris a/k/a fugi
    • Re: working the program

      Fri, May 27, 2005 - 9:08 AM
      you just take care of yourself and get get well sweetie.....i have the whole website downloaded in pdf format. and ready to start a mtg in this area. it's hard to generate intertest. still in the "feasibility" study arena. our AA group is a free for all so many of the people are comfortably numb and no one seems to mind. sigh...

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